Do you think feminine gay men make transual women look bad? (I'm a currently frustrated transwoman)?

I'm a 19-year old pre-op MTF transual woman and there is something about feminine men that makes me furious. They act like women yet they "wouldn't dream of removing their ". People within the GAY COMMUNITY have tried to convince me on numerous occasions that I am just a feminine gay male and changing my is not necessary. WRONG! I am a woman born in the wrong body. I don't not need to accept what I am not. But one incident that particularly irked me was when I had an argument with this feminine gay guy. He is a huge flamer and more feminine than ME! He's such a fake. But anyway, I told him unless he sincerely feels as though he's a woman born in a male's body, he needs to act like a man and stop being such an attention . Men like him and Chris Crocker irk me. If they are truly comfortable with being a man why ACT like a woman? People like them are the reason why most people don't take transuals seriously. It's hurtful. What are your thoughts?